Thursday, April 3, 2008

Have you searched for the good in your child today?

I don't know about you, but sometimes at the end of the day, I feel like just about every encounter that I have had with Ella, my 3 almost 4 year old, has been negative. Whether she or I have just had "one of those days" or what, by the end of those days I am just over it-you know? You know what I am talking about-one of those days that at 8 in the morning you say to yourself, "Is it bedtime yet?"

If you never have one of those days, then you are Super Mom and you need to share your secrets! ;)

Anyway-this week I started reading a book entitled "The Power of a Positive Mom" by Karol Ladd. Moms out there-you need to pick this book up. It is such an awesome book, and definitely a must read!

In one of the early chapters of the book she poses the question:

"Have you searched for the good in your child today?"

Wow! What a great question to ask myself everyday. It is so easy to focus on what my children are NOT doing, and to totally look past what they are doing right and the positive qualities that they possess.

The author goes on to talk about being on the lookout for your children's good qualities-ones that reflect the fruit of the Spirit, as well as things they accomplish throughout the day-such as doing something the first time you ask them to do it.

This week, since reading the book, I have found that my days flow much smoother, and the amount of negative encounters during the day have diminished since choosing to focus on the positive, and searching for the good in my sweet babies. (ok, so it's not that hard with a 6 month old..haha)

The power of a positive words in our kids lives is an amazing thing! By pouring on the encouraging words, we can watch our kids finest qualities strengthen and grow. It is our job as parents to build them up, and help them to realize that their self-worth is based on the fact that God made them and He loves them. What an awesome responsibility we as parents have been blessed with!!

Have you put fuel in your kids emotional tanks today?


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Kelly Moreton said...

this is a good post jen. i need to remember this with ella too, cause sometimes the girl be drivin me crazy! i love her though.

i also need to remember this with cooper when he keeps throwing up all over me. at least he smiles after he does it!

Megan@SortaCrunchy said...

this is so good! I really needed to hear this THIS morning!

April said...

What a wonderful post! I love reading your blog!. My Kate is only 4 days younger than your Cooper. Last night was such a rough night b/c we had our small group over to our house and my Kate screamed the whole time (she was not in the same room with us, but it was very distracting)! Kate has two teeth already and her tummy was hurting too. It was so hard to not run to her and hold her… just wish I could have made it better for her! Fortunately, everyone in the group has children so the understand. Anyways, I am going to get the book you recommended! Hope you had a good birthday! I will be 29 this year too☺. Maybe we will run into each other at NP again. My hubby and I would love to take your family to dinner sometime☺.

The Gerborgs said...

i'm going to have to go get this book . . . does it come with time too . . . i could use some of that so i could actually read it! ha, ha! seriously, though, with my little 4-year-old challenge, i definitely need this!